If you’ve found your way here, there is something about the twin flame journey that has resonated with you. Twin flames are gaining more and more attention in the mainstream lately, from celebrities identifying as twin flames, to songs, to movies that either directly or indirectly depict twins, to the recent streaming series about a cult that used the twin flame journey as their hook. As is the case with almost any topic you research online, you will find a multitude of answers and opinions. While I do not claim to have all of the answers, there are some generally agreed upon truths within the community, and there are also some varying schools of thought regarding other aspects.
What is a twin flame?
One core thing that almost everyone agrees upon in this community is that your twin flame is YOU. It is often described as: a simultaneous incarnation of the same soul, sharing the exact soul vibration/frequency, your soul split in two, having the same soul essence, or something to that effect. Your twin flame will spur your spiritual ascension or awakening process and will challenge you to grow and to heal your inner wounds. A twin flame connection requires a great deal of personal work and healing from both of you in order to come together in permanent physical union during this lifetime.
What a twin flame is not
A twin flame is not “soulmates, but better!” A soulmate is a distinctly separate soul, but one that is at a very similar energetic frequency to you. You may have known them in past lives and you have agreed to be in each other’s lives during this incarnation. A soulmate will feel like home and will be there to love you and support you on your journey. A soulmate has more of a warm and fuzzy feel on a pretty consistent basis (not to say that you do not disagree, but they do not push you to grow and heal in the same way a twin flame will). When people think of a fairy tale romance, this is usually a soulmate relationship.
A twin flame connection is not a label to be placed on a relationship that is simply one sided. While the runner-chase dynamic exists, it is important to be honest with yourself as to whether the running is due to them being overwhelmed/not ready for/confused about your connection, or if it is them legitimately being uninterested in pursing a romantic connection with you. You may have had a very intense and passionate connection at the beginning that has now turned cold and you’re wondering why. Even if you feel strongly for them, if they are telling you they do not feel the same way, you may be experiencing limerence.
A twin flame label should never be an excuse to tolerate abusive and hurtful behaviors. This is one area where there are varying opinions in the twin flame community. Some will say that a twin would never hurt their other self, while others say that it does happen because of the deep core wounding and mirroring. What I will say is that twin or not, you should never allow yourself to be abused or mistreated, regardless of any labels you may place on your connection. If the person truly is your twin and you are being mistreated, then 100% one of your lessons for this lifetime is to stand up for yourself and protect your inner child by leaving that situation. Do not enable them to continue to hurt you under the guise of “helping them to heal, clear their karma, etc.”
*If you are being hurt, abused, or mistreated, please reach out to a licensed professional who is properly trained to help you navigate this type of situation.
It is incredibly important not to excuse abusive, destructive, hurtful behavior by labeling it as a twin flame connection and saying that you are both working on healing, clearing karma, mirroring, etc. This is harmful to you, and it also brings the perception of the twin flame collective down.
What is this twin flame journey about?
This journey is about your spiritual ascension. It is about you awakening to your truth, standing in your power, and raising your vibration thereby raising the vibration of those around you. Not to sound grandiose, but it is about ushering in a new world rooted in love, compassion, and understanding. You are the beacon of light, allowing others to follow in your footsteps and lead with love and light. Even though this journey is kickstarted by meeting your twin and having soul recognition take place, the journey is not specifically about you and your twin and when will you come into union. Remember, your twin is you. The amazing love you feel for your twin during the bubble love phase is there to show you the depths of love you are capable of feeling. Once soul recognition happens and your journey begins, usually painfully because either your twin will begin running or some other massive force interferes with your connection, your new mission is to be able to return to that vibration of love you now know is possible. Early in the journey, most twins erroneously believe that the physical presence of their twin is the only thing that will bring that feeling of love back into their life, thus the chasing and obsessive thoughts begin. The truth of the matter is that you can create that feeling of love for yourself. You can sit in that energy of love on your own, because you are your twin, whether they are physically with you or not.
Once you can sit in that higher vibration of love, your experience will change. It is a challenge, but you can do it! Remember, you signed up for this experience here on earth. Trust that your soul knew what it was doing when it volunteered for this. Trust that there is something wonderful waiting for you on the other side of this unknown.
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